After a long and semi-productive day at work, an evening of class lecture, and an uneventful commute to and from each, I called home to speak with my wife.
We had a normal conversation, I listened to the events of her day and as I listened and responded and asked questions... everything seemed so normal. Positive. I asked if she was in a good mood. She responded with, "an Okay mood."
I even took out a list of questions that I had written the other day, when I was feeling self-piteous and a bit depressed. None of the questions seemed apropos and there was no good segue to be made.
Oh and looking at the clock, it was a few minutes after 11 pm when we started talking and by the time I thought I could have transitioned into other, more personal, subjects it was 11:30 pm. There is no way that I was going to delve into emotional issues after 11:30 on a weeknight.
One would think that a conversation such as the one that I had intended should be in person. The strange thing is that she and I have longer conversations on Skype or the telephone in the last 13 years than we have ever had in person.
I will have to re-write some of these questions, and consider more fully her position.
Strange, to think that I would need to prepare for a conversation with my wife, but to be unprepared, or less prepared, I will certainly forget something I wanted to ask or work on with her...
Till tomorrow then.
It makes sense, actually. Another friend of mine said he & his wife had an easier time online chatting about honest issues and so they would often do this even while in the same house. It's not easy to have in-depth conversations about heavy stuff. It's nice though that you're thinking of her and taking time/etc. into consideration. Care is often noticed.
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