Stupid to think this...
When I was young (early 20's) [yeah, a long time ago] there were these odd instances that occurred a few times, where I would be hanging out with a friend and it would either get late, or we had hiked all over the place and were just plain tired... it was then that I would either invite or be invited to just 'crash' wherever we were. My house, a friends apartment, etc.
It seemed like the most normal thing in the world. [We were out of class and had a lot of free time] So, what might be considered 'odd' or 'strange' in retrospect?
Well...
The fact that most of my friends at the time were women, and (apparently) they felt safe enough to just cuddle up and fall asleep together. [I can't believe I am about to tell you the term I coined] A "cuddle-buddie", like a couple of puppies sleeping together for the feeling of security and warmth. There was no flirting, or apparent sexual overtones, just a really nice feeling of being with someone you know and like, and not sleeping alone. [It didn't hurt that they were soft and smelled nice too.]
Who knows what to call it?
It was nice. It was uncomplicated (or at least I percieved it that way). There are still times that I still get a little of the feeling at home, but that closeness it is more like a comfortable habit. To be truthful, I have slept the majority of the last four to seven years on my own. [Many reasons, to be left for another time.]
Lastly, on dreams.
When I have enough time to sleep and remember parts of my dreams, they are complex, winding, moving, adventures much of the time. It is me with, for and against the world. I run, I drive, I fly, I swim, in and out and around scenery, landscapes, interesting architecture and passages. Long interaction with others in my dreams is a rarity, and rarely if ever sexual, but definitely idea provoking and (again) adventures.
I have held so many jobs in my lifetime and in my dreams, it is no wonder I am confused as to what I am supposed to WANT to BE -or- Do, in my "real" life. I can say in all honesty that I have NEVER been bored in my life; my mind takes care of that, and my dreams seem to follow the example.
I hope that you too can see your dreams more as an adventure and discovery, perhaps even the intrigue of a mystery. . .
Get some good sleep
- Mike
I really get the "cuddle-buddie" thing -- I had a gf that I snuggled with sometimes as a kid when I slept over, completely asexual, just like puppies, like you said.
ReplyDeleteYeah, but I was more than 20 years old. Perhaps it is naive of me to think, or have thought that... People, I suppose, are not always looking for serious (BF/GF) relations, but a partner, like on a dance floor. It is temporary and fun just to be together for togetherness sake. Humans need others, solitude if carried out to the extreme, can affect us negatively.
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